Brazil is very liberal sexually and encounters are taken very lightly. To kiss someone means no commitment whatsoever in many cases and is just part of the evening’s entertainment. To spend the night with someone is also often just an adventure to tell the friends about the next day.
In the uninhibited spirits girls wear the skimpiest underwear and beach costumes possible. You’ll hardly ever see a girl topless on the beach though, it’s as if that would be immodest but showing 98% of the entire body is perfectly okay. They see the tiny bikinis as cute. Brazilian girls are so used to the intense come-ons of the local guys that they’re often touched by the sensitivity and tact of Westerners. Whilst they may not make the first move a smile is a definite invitation to come over and talk. You’ll rarely get a rude response if you go and speak to someone.
Some girls will come home with you on the first night, others are just out to flirt and have fun. It’s all thought perfectly innocent. Some girls are definite gringo-hunters and will hang around the ex-pat nightspots. These speak English and some of them wouldn’t mind marrying to go and live in a better country.
Others are just looking for something exotic. The girls from the rich neighbourhoods aren’t usually very impressed by gringos. They’re looking for the big fish in their own culture.
The poorer girls may feel their ship has come in if they meet a Western guy. Don’t lead someone on who thinks you might marry them. You need to learn how to tell if a girl is a prostitute. If she is she may take you for all you’re worth. The clues are usually a kind of predatory look in the eyes, too obviously sexual dress and a vagueness whenever you ask what she does for a living. And make sure she’s 18 or over.
Once you have a girlfriend she’ll probably try to completely take over your life. Most Brazilian girls are fiercely jealous and will resent any of your female friends or even any time you spend with anyone except them. One theory is that they copy their behaviour from the tele-novelas (soap operas) that they all watch religiously. These shows are full of passion, infidelity and people being bitchy towards one another. At the same time she’ll help you out a lot and be an affectionate, demanding partner.
Brazilian guys don’t wait to be invited to go and talk to a girl – they just head over and put their arm around her waist before she’s even seen them. In Salvador they even pull the girl’s hair towards them. The guys also wear skimpy swimming costumes and parade around the beach in Speedo swimming trunks. Unfortunately not too much is left to the imagination. The guys will pretty much hit on anything in a skirt regardless of class, colour or nationality. A gringa is definitely a novelty but few are looking for a girlfriend. Relationships take away their principal pleasure in life – hitting on girls.
Sex in Brazil
It’s a good idea to use contraception as Aids and Std’s are more prevalent here than in most parts. The condom is called a camisinha, meaning a small shirt. Girls and even many guys live at home until well into their 20’s or further so it’s likely to have to be your place or a motel. A night in one of these costs around $20-30.